Then let me be brave in the attempt

May 30, 2016

“Let me win. But if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt.” — The Special Olympics Athlete’s Oath Before the Really Big Weather hit Bryan, we were there for Special Olympics last weekend. Sam has been competing in equestrian Special O since he was 12 years old. Yet, each year his instructors […]

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Overheard in the Wolfe House #301

May 7, 2016

(After passing another driver holding a penlight out the window on a Friday night #onlyinDenton) Paige: Huh? Peggy: Whatever floats your boat. Sam: Whatever floats Boaty McBoatface.

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True Blue Lacy

April 28, 2016

For the first time in 20 years, there are no dogs in my house. Except for a very short, disastrous period with a hyper Corgi named Tippy, we didn’t have dogs when I was growing up. But I loved dogs. I  studied all the different dog breeds. I read and re-read storybooks about dogs. I wanted dogs in my […]

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The little things, again

April 17, 2016

Yesterday Sam and I went to a funeral. They are always hard on us, and this one underscored both the hope and the cruelty that comes in the march of time. When it was time to go, Sam came out of his apartment clutching a tie he’d gotten from his brother, Michael. I didn’t consider […]

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8 Mile: random thoughts running the hills at Possum Kingdom

April 10, 2016

When all your favorite trails for training have been washed out, or are under water, and you haven’t run a real trail race in a year, take an 8-mile romp to get your footing back. It’s not too short. It’s not too long. It’s just right. Drive two hours to run two hours and you will be […]

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Sam rides barrels for the first time

April 2, 2016

Sam says “well, that was fun.”  

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Riding Western

March 28, 2016

Sam competed for the first time in Western style horseback riding at the North Central Texas College stock show last weekend in Gainesville. He competes with “able-bodied” riders from time to time to challenge himself. This was great practice for next weekend. The regional equestrian Special Olympics are being hosted by the stables where he […]

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Other lessons stated out loud

March 9, 2016

“Our children are not us … and yet we are our children; the reality of being a parent never leaves those who have braved the metamorphosis.” – Andrew Solomon, Far From the Tree.  There are so many lessons from life with a child with autism, it seems important to share at least some of them. […]

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March 6, 2016

Sam has a certain smile that really sings. He’s such a deep thinker that we don’t get to see this smile very much. Like the smile-for-the-camera smile most of us have, his face looks posed in photographs, only more so. But when a happy moment comes — like that moment when sunlight makes it through the clouds and trees […]

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Cake in a jar

March 3, 2016

The first time I ever had cake in a jar was in Tokyo. The people who would become my friends and colleagues were kind enough to stock my apartment refrigerator when I first moved in. They filled it with things they thought a Westerner would like to eat. At the time, I had no idea what […]

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