I’ve been experimenting with leaving Sam on his own for a couple of days, just to see how he holds up. Dishes get washed, and animals get fed, house stays clean. He even went to the post office and picked up the mail and collected all the newspapers. This is good.

We shop before I go so that he can cook for himself, but he doesn’t. This time, I made a pile of sausage kolaches before I left. That was supposed to be breakfast. He just told me that was pretty much what he ate while we were gone — he made neither the spaghetti nor the pizza — both of which he’s made many times on his own for family meals.

When your toddler has autism, sometimes it’s hard to discern which is which. For example, was that temper tantrum the sign of something that needs to be addressed, or was it just your run-of-the-mill hissy fit?

I feel like I’m right back there again. Do I worry that this is a sign of self-help skills that need shoring up, or is he just being a bachelor?