Writing
As told to the Mayborn Nonfiction Conference
I went. I heard. I tweeted what resonated most with me.
- We’re in it – Skip Hollandsworth, all about “Bernie”
- This is a story you don’t get in the way of – Skip Hollandsworth
- Only when readers feel will they begin to think it through – Jeff Guinn
- Unconventional warfare is a cancer we pour in and once we do that, it’s hard to control – Tony Schwalm, The Guerrilla Factory
- There are no shortcuts in the process of owning your material – Jim Hornfischer
- OH at #Mayborn: “Because the person who comes back is not the person who left” – what migration/immigration and military memoir share
- Truth and courage – Alfredo Corchado, Reyna Grande
- I look for the voice, the voice that will carry it – agent Bonnie Nadell, on book proposals
- In democracy no decision is more profound than war and peace – Rick Atkinson
- In good narrative history, there is no foreseeable future – Rick Atkinson
- Public figures deserve their complexity – Kevin Merida
- I was always trying to write about this cosmic wrong – Donna Britt
- I said everything except this is a story about the healing power of love – Kelly Benham
- Storytelling can be a healing process, a wounding process – Tom Huang
- I probably should’ve run – Hugh Aynesworth, JFK eyewitness
- JFK 50 years later. Here’s a story from a Dallas reporter who was there http://t.co/05iCF8ynwy
- Love favors the prepared heart. – John Valliant
- I spent a year writing a pitch letter. Front-loading works well – John Valliant
- In memoir writing, there are ways to take a powerful memory and nail down the corners – Amanda Bennett
- It was, in the end, a love story – Amanda Bennett
- A photo can be simultaneously clear in its storytelling ability and confusing – Paul Hendrickson
- Westword’s Alan Prendergast tells the #Mayborn tribe that the original new journalists used archival research more than they let on.
- In those silences that follow your questions, you must use your imagination as well as your research to understand – Helen Benedict
- Editors see the holes in the logic that you can’t – Susan Orlean
- It’s just not the #Mayborn until Bill Marvel asks a question
- Archives have the good stuff; and can be more intimate than the interview – Susan Orlean
- There is a radiant quality to a story that has that longer timeline – Susan Orlean
- @LowellMBrown Yes. Chickens are very popular in the twitterverse
- To start on twitter, tweet about your chickens – Susan Orlean
You can follow me at @phwolfeDRC. Or find more searching #Mayborn. Or read Michael Merschel’s story (paywall) which underscores that, if you went, you could not continue to think that journalists are “heartless, self-centered or careless.” We showed, amply, that we have heart.
The sibling experience
I didn’t tackle the sibling experience in my book about the first few years of Sam’s life. I didn’t feel it was my story to tell.
Many siblings of people with autism are starting to tell their stories. Paige and, especially, Michael enjoyed one book I picked up for them several years ago, The Ride Together. Paige wrote an essay for her nonfiction class at the University of Iowa that she will workshop at the Mayborn conference.
This young man shared his heartwarming story on YouTube.
Paige’s favorite lines:
“They thought he reached his fullest potential. He proved them wrong.”
“I play the big brother in the way I look out for him, but I still look up to him.”
Words My Dog Knows
I have a Blue Lacy dog named Gus:
He will be 12 years old this year. Over the years, he has learned many words and phrases. He understands basic commands such as come, sit, stay, and down, of course. But let’s explore some of the more interesting words Gus knows.
Uh-oh. Gus knows when this is uttered in the kitchen to come a-running because something delicious just fell on the floor. Say it in another room and he ignores you.
Time for toothbrush. He follows you to the pantry for those chews that ostensibly clean his teeth.
Squirrel. Nothing more needs to be said.
Crow. Like squirrel, little more needs to be said, but he looks up in the sky.
Time for work. He barks at you until get your boots on. Same goes for, let’s get the paper, or walk, or outside, or take the trash up.
Tractor. Sam never says a word, but Gus knows when he puts in the ear protectors, it’s time to bark because the 2N is heading out into the orchard.
Get ’em up. This was very useful when we had more livestock here, for example, when Michael’s cashmere goats would get out of their pen or the chickens needed to be hustled back in the coop. In 2005, I thought about dispatching him to the Texas Legislature when they made one of many messes they’ve made with school financing at the same time they declared his breed the official state dog.
Given what’s going on in Austin this week, I may yet send him down there.
Get ’em up, Gus.
Driving on the rims
When your kids are in college, you can learn vicariously through them, and I’m picking up all kinds of new things this summer from my daughter, Paige, who is majoring in English.
Sometimes it comes in longer talks (I had to work hard to remember why I didn’t like The Great Gatsby — sorry, Doni — and defend my opinion), but mostly we share observations, like one last night, seeing the unlikely outcome of a story and reminding each other that it was made possible through the omniscience of fiction.
Not something you get in real life, which probably explains my attraction to nonfiction. Paige took a nonfiction class and got some insight into that messy framework, (did it help that she was also taking a psychology class to meet a core requirement?) but in the end, I think she’ll be a fiction writer. That’s not fictional omniscience speaking, it’s just that her Shelfari is full of fiction and mine, not so much.
So, I shared with her a story about her dad and me that I thought would make a great scene for fiction. Maybe it could still be woven into some key moment of emotional truth in a piece of nonfiction, but the story sits in my memory as a random bit, like an old key in the junk drawer you are afraid to toss because, even though you haven’t figured out for the past 20 years what it goes to, you know as soon as you throw it away, you will.
When I packed up my things in Colorado and first moved to California, Mark came to help me drive across the desert. It was the end of summer. We had not yet figured out what we would learn a few years later, when the kids were little, that driving overnight, in shifts, is a far better way to get across the desert in the summer. But, we did drive as long into the night as we could before we stopped at a roadside park in Nevada to lay the seats back and get a few hours sleep. About 4 a.m., we were startled awake by such a noise I had never heard before, or since. The racket stopped by the time we were awake enough for our eyes to focus on a woman and two men as they slammed car doors and started stumbling around the car, yelling at each other. It could have been my stupor, but I believe it was more likely theirs, because what they were saying was completely, totally, utterly incoherent. The yelling went on for a few minutes, then, they got back in the car, slammed the doors and started up again. That’s when we saw the source of the racket. They were driving across the caliche on all four rims.
I didn’t think a car could do that. Mark was incredulous, too. But there they went, down a desert road on rims, a piece of fiction in real life.