One book every ten years

By Peggy | February 9, 2014 |

I’ve been told more than once that the purpose of your first book is to help get your contract for the second one. (Also, I’m told to not quit your day job until after the third book is published, but I keep doing the math and I think that advice is for fiction writers.)

I’ve noticed that some writers are better than I am about coming up with topics for books. A children’s writer down the road from me, Lynn Sheffield Simmons, gets her inspiration from animals and her little books are now in accelerated reader programs in elementary schools. My good friend, Donna Fielder, follows the headlines with her terrific true crime books. She also works with really funny material from her column writing — it seems like she always has a project in some stage of development.

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It has been almost a decade since I developed my last manuscript and managed to have “See Sam Run” published. The next one is coming along, thanks to an extraordinary collaborator, Shahla Ala’i-Rosales.

Shahla has worked with parents and children with autism for years, has helped educate a generation of certified behavior analysts, and produces informed research on the topic. It has taken us several years to put together what we hope will be a timeless guide for parents, young and old, who love and care for a child (or adult) with autism.

It’s basically this idea:

Art by Susan Sullivan, SUMY Designs

Art by Susan Sullivan, SUMY Designs

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is no easy task, y’all.

But Shahla and I have come to recognize that behavior analysis and mindfulness intersect in a way that can be powerful and life-altering for parents, their personal and professional allies, and the children in their care. 

Here’s a sneak peek from our proposal:

Our book starts in territory that others have explored – the emotional landscape above which all the hard work of raising a child takes place – and moves into the extraordinary territory parents of children with disabilities must work in. As no one has written about mindful parenting and parenting children with disabilities for general audience, our book will break new ground.

Parents make decisions for their children every day. Parents of children with disabilities often make more decisions, and sometimes continue to do so for the duration of their child’s entire life. Many of those parents also recognize that their children may lack the resilience to bounce back as quickly, if at all, if a decision turns out to be a mistake. Those decisions can often feel high-stakes to parents.

Through its conversational tone, accessible to busy and overwhelmed parents, this book will both offer parents stories that are insightful and steer them towards tenets unified by time-tested, wisdom-based principles. The work is also grounded in the ethical guidelines used by professionals. In this way, the book echoes not only emerging market in mindfulness and parenting but also emerging research on mindfulness …

Posted in decision-making, problem-solving, Writing

And the trail ride

By Peggy | January 26, 2014 |

Sam loaded this video to his own YouTube channel. Michael shot it, and you can hear him at one point chiding the horse, Trevor, who didn’t appear to cooperate at the gate.

Tonight Sam talked about this ride in a way that he hadn’t shared before. I had walked by him sitting in the recliner on my way to my own chair in the living room and gave his knee a pat.

This is something that typically makes him recoil from my touch, so I rarely do it, but I try from time to time. He recoiled, of course.

But after doing so, he told me that he had strong reflexes and that it can be a problem when riding horse. He said that he has to try to control them, otherwise his body sends the horse the wrong signal of what he wants to do.

“Like when we were at the gate,” he said.

Posted in getting back on the horse, problem-solving, What Sam says

Excellence on horseback and that 10,000 hours expert thing

By Peggy | January 21, 2014 |

Sam competed again in Chisholm Challenge this year, and he earned another belt buckle for his English equitation ride, his sixth in about 10 years.

I started thinking about Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Outliers, and this concept of how long it takes to become an expert at a thing.

Sam looks like an expert on horseback to me. See for yourself (brother Michael is the videographer):

Michael says that when Terry Evans interviewed Sam and him for this piece in the Fort Worth Star-Telegram, Evans was surprised that we didn’t own a horse even though we lived in Argyle. (Dude, it’s Aubrey where the horses outnumber the human population, but I digress.)

But I thought, I should count up the hours he’s been riding. Maybe he comes close to that magic number in Gladwell’s book at one hour per week, and about 40 weeks per year, over 21 years …

840 hours – not even in the ballpark and couldn’t even get close in 40 more years of riding. But I’m sure he’ll have a blast trying.

Posted in adults with autism, getting back on the horse, social life

A Christmas tradition: cinnamon rolls

By Peggy | December 25, 2013 |

My mother had a few recipes from her Aunt Bea that were in her regular rotation, including baked beans and sweet rolls.

When we were little, I think the whole family could afford the calories from the sweet rolls a little more often, but eventually, they became a Christmas tradition. So much so, that they get a mention in the book.

I imagine Mom is making them tonight, just as we are. It just wouldn’t be Christmas morning without them. Here’s the family recipe:

Cinnamon rolls

1 ½ cups milk
1 cup butter, cut in small chunks
¾ c. sugar
1 tsp. salt
1 pkg. yeast
¼ cup warm water
2 eggs, beaten
6 cups white flour

More melted butter and cinnamon sugar (2 T. sugar mixed with 2 tsp. cinnamon)

Scald the milk, stir in butter, sugar and salt. Butter will melt as it cools. Sprinkle yeast over warm water. When milk-butter mixture cools to about 100 degrees, stir in yeast mixture and eggs. Incorporate flour one cup at a time, beating in the same direction until you achieve a sticky dough that’s just starting to come together. Place in greased bowl and let rise until doubled. Punch down and let rise again. When doubled, knead gently for a minute. Roll out into a rectangle about one inch think. Brush with melted butter and sprinkle with cinnamon sugar. Roll up into a log, slice crosswise, 1 to 2 inches thick, place each slice in muffin tins. Let rise 15 more minutes, bake at 375 degrees F. for 15 to 20 minutes. While hot, dip in more melted butter and cinnamon sugar to top.

 

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